The Q: My daughter is getting marrried this may and as of yet her maid of honor has not discussed with me her plans for the shower. I know that the girls in the party cannot afford to rent a place for the occasion. I have some ideas for where the shower could be. Would it be ok for me to cover the cost of a location. Also my daughter has expressed that she would like it to be held at my home. Howerver, I dont think I can fit the 40 -45 people she wants to invite. What should I do? wait for the maid of honor to approach me. and if so how long. Or should I offer my suggestions. Lastly what time before the wedding should a shower be held . Thanks
The A: It's actually increasingly common for the MOB to help with the costs associated with the shower, especially in Metro Areas where people have less space and not everyone can host a home-based shower. It's not "Post-Approved" etiquette, but for what it's worth, it's Blogsmaid approved etiquette for you to contact the MOH and say that you would really like to "help" with the shower by covering the cost of a location so that her and the other bridesmaids can put their money and energy into the other parts- favors, a little cake, decorations, etc. You should bring this up pretty soon because ideally showers are about 2-3 months before the wedding. This schedule helps your guests not feel totally overwhelmed by the wedding and gift buying.
In terms of the stuff about your home and your daughter wanting a home based shower, I think that space is the most important consideration. I feel like you should seriously consider if you could fit everyone, but if you can't make it work, don't feel too badly about it. Your ultimate goal is for her to have a lovely shower, and your warm intention won't be missed!