The Q: I'm a Maid of Honor for my best friend's wedding. I'm not really sure what I should be doing..... Any advice?
The A: Great Question. Your day to day duties will probably vary depending on your bride, her mom's involvement and if she has a planner or not, but you can count on having to do a few critical things:
*Be enthusiastic and supportive, even if you don't really care about stationary or aren't in love with her fiance's family, etc.
*Organize the other 'maids. Be a "team captain" and make sure everyone has ordered their dresses, gotten their shoes, etc.
*Take the lead on her shower/bachelorette. Here in NY, small apartments and high prices usually mean showers are a family affair, but elsewhere its really a bridesmaid only responsibility. However you plan on splitting the costs, take a leadership role and advocate for what you know your friend would like.
* Learn to "do the bustle" at her fitting and then do it on the day of.
*If there is no Day Of coordinator, help her out by confirming details and arrival times with her vendors and keeping their cell numbers on the day of. Be her point person on that day so that no one is stressing her out.
*Don't forget to hold her bouquet and fix her train during the ceremony. If you need to hold his wedding band, don't forget it!
*Try and give the couple a little private time post ceremony by being a little bit of a bridal body guard.
Those are the biggies. Your duties might also include toast making, envelope stuffing, program folding, cake tasting and more. But, if you hit these "biggies" you'll have done a pretty great job.