Post-Wedding Depression

The Q:  I've been in a funk ever since I got back from my honeymoon. I'm so happy to be married, but I was in such a flurry before the wedding, I feel like there is something missing.  All I do is talk about my wedding to my friends and family.  It must be so annoying since that was also all I did before the wedding.  Is this normal?  Any advice to getting over it?

The A:  It's post wedding depression, and it's totally normal.  In fact, I think many of my readers are recently-wed and weaning themselves off the wedding blog fix. :-)

Remember, it makes total sense.  First of all, you had to sideline parts of your life to plan the wedding- the meetings with vendors, the days to go look at locations, the evenings folding programs, etc., etc.- so there is an actual gap in your life.  It always takes a while to remember what you used to do with all of that free time!  The second part is, you've been building up all this excitement to this big day and, no matter how great, it can always feel a little bit like "new year's morning" after you wrap up something big like that. 

I find that one of the best ways to beat the post-wedding blues is to organize activities around the "big things" that happen after the wedding.  Have your friends and family over to watch the video or invite your bridesmaids over for some wine when you get your proofs back.  It's a good way to not only keep your planning skills honed, but it's a fun way to to celebrate and re-live the highlights without seeming like all you do is talk about wedding! 

Of course, there are always the many, many thank you notes that you will need to write that will surely keep you busy as well........

Other recently weds out there, did you feel any post-wedding blues?  How did you get over it?