Registry Schmegistry: To have or to have not
The Q: "I am having an engagement party (champagne toast and hors d'ouevres). I did not register because I thought it would be in poor taste but I have a few people who are giving me grief and acting as if I did not use proper etiquette. I was having the party as a celebration. We are not having a wedding but the purpose was not to get gifts out of people. Please advise." - Tammy
The A: Boy, people are really funny, aren't they? You ask for gifts and you're greedy, you don't ask for gifts and your inconsiderate! You just can't win! The truth is (and this is the truth according to the GENIUS Peggy Post) NO ONE is obligated to purchase you an engagement gift- and it's considered in POOR TASTE to imply that your guests should. So in actuality, your not registering is certainly no faux pax. However, because etiquette is only as good as the number of people who use it (and it seems that number is growing less and less) these kinds of things are likely to happen. To avoid turning the inquiries cantankerous, I suggest simply telling them that you would prefer people make a charitable donation. Charity has an amazing way of shutting people up!
That is a fantastic advice, and so true, thanks!
Posted by: Wedding Lover | July 31, 2007 at 05:43 AM
Great question. I'd like to link to it from my own blog.
Posted by: Sara | August 12, 2007 at 07:55 PM